Mishpatim – February 23, 2006 – 25 Sh’vat, 5766

The Revelation – according to the midrashim (oral tradition), the Jews ran away from the Revelation at Sinai. They were okay with the idea that they had to be holy, but rebelled at the utterly new thought that their property needed to be holy. Product liability was unknown in the ancient world.

What was the major Jewish contribution to the American law system (not including some really great lawyers, right from our very own community)? The lawsuit—a tremendous innovation – there was nothing like it for 1,000 years.

½ shekel is collected on Purim. One-half is a key number, the number of mutual need, incompleteness. There is room to give, room to receive. One-half is a meditative number.

The first census of the Hebrews was commanded by G*d. People were not counted (“Don’t count people, make people count”), but the ½ shekel they each contributed were counted. We are instructed not to count people. The Nazis counted us many times during the day. The Warsaw census of 1940 could not have been conducted without the only four IBM machines in existence, thanks to Hitler’s good friend, Thomas Watson.

In Hebrew, the word “pay” means “complete.”

Homework: read Job. From Job we learn the laws of Shiva (mourning).

Why didn’t G*d protect Job, why didn’t G*d protect the Jews in Auschwitz, from the Satan?

The Aish Kodesh said that we if honor his book, his lips move in the grave.

Even if we’ve had only ten minutes of study, we need to ask if it’s a revelation, if we have changed.

The vessel to receive, which is feminine, is the opposite of a fix-it, which is masculine energy.

Noah was inventive, creative. He invented the plow, and in doing so changed human history. It allowed for the cultivation of crops, which gave rise to the development of cities, specialization, leisure time. Wheat is the poison and the cure. The first separation of the baby from the mother is when he/she eats wheat cereal. We elevate bread.

What was in front of Moses’s tent?

Moses’s prime job was to teach the people to be free, not slaves. If he replaced Pharaoh, then they were not free. When all the people were lined us waiting for his judgments, he had become their new Pharaoh. Yitro told him, “You’re wrong!” This is difficult for a Type A personality to hear – I’m doing so much and all I get is criticism! This was his pain. A big portion of the Torah is about what we do with pain. Gold – which Moses scorned and which was used to create the Golden Calf—is what we reach for when we are in fear.

A case can be made for Moses having created the Golden Calf, rather than Aaron:

1. When Moses scorned the gold which the other Hebrews were collecting as reparations from the Egyptians (thus giving the Egyptians a chance to do tchuva), he was not giving the Satan its due;

2. While the Hebrews were collecting gold, Moses wrote the holy name of G*d on parchment and used it to raise Joseph’s bones. That same parchment was used to make the Golden Calf;

3. He had become (he had made himself) so indispensable to the Israelites that they created the Golden Calf out of fear when he was late in descending from Har Sinai;

4. He was late descending from Har Sinai because he really wanted to stay in Shamyim learning from HaShem rather than returning to lead the Israelites.

Moses took Yitro’s words to heart, and in delegating the work he had been doing single-handedly, he made room to receive the Torah.

SHIVA

The main sin of visiting mourners is diverting a person from his or her pain.

If you can’t feel pain, you’re like a barren woman. Rachel and Sarah began teaching tchuva from their barrenness.

There’s one problem with pain that stops all growth: depression. You can die from numbness. On the physical level, pain alerts us to a dangerous situation; people who don’t feel pain injure themselves.

The first step in becoming fertile is feeling pain. A miscarriage is when pain is followed by depression.

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The main source of Moses’s pain is his inability to communicate. In his incarnation as Noach, he convinced not a single person to do tchuva. Moses’s disability was that he was too good. He was teaching the people how to be compulsive, not how to be free.

Moses asked Aaron, “Are the people worshiping the Golden Calf as a god?” Aaron answered, “No, you!” The people wanted Moses to know the answer, and he always knew the right answer. He had to learn to say, “I don’t know.” As we can see with the Golden Calf, Korech, the Blasphemer, and Zimri and Cosby, he learned to say “I don’t know.”

It’s not enough just to feel pain. The biggest enemies of change are guilt and depression.

When you take your pain and make of it a receiving vessel in your heart, G*d can fill it up.

Crucial for human:

Pain & Joy (Hillel and Shammai)

Good & Evil (Job)

G*d out there and G*d in my soul

Heaven and Earth.

The Torah says don’t resolve the pain.

The basic law of mourning is fasting, but there is a fear that the mourner will never eat again, will do harm to himself/herself. The mourner leads the davening to make the statement that in spite of his or her pain, I still believe in G*d.

Mordechai taught people to feel their pain; he taught Esther. The first two letters of his name spells “bitter” (mara). He said to Esther, “You can’t hide in the palace, you don’t deny your pain.”

Aaron Cutler started the Lakewood Yeshiva, which was actually the start of the yeshiva movement. He said to Henry Morganthal, Franklin Roosevelt’s best friend, “You and your line will pay if you do nothing to save the Jews of Europe,” words straight from the Book of Esther. As a result, Morganthal commissioned a study, which revealed that the State Department collaborated with Hitler to kill European Jewry. After reading the report, he vomited for an hour. He told President Roosevelt that if he didn’t do something to save the Jews, he personally would run against him in the next election. As a result, the War Refugee Board was created, which saved one million Jews. They hired Raul Wallenberg, who saved Jews in ways that outrageously defied personal danger.

Esther teaches us to feel simcha after the pain.

A Jewish woman who voluntarily has relations with another man is not permitted to go back to her husband. Esther had to make this decision, to never return to Mordechai. She asks G*d why has he abandoned her? (Question: who said it first? She said it before Jesus, but someone said it before she did.) Then she cries out for help, requesting the Jews to fast and pray for three days. It connects. It’s hard to ask for help—we sabotage ourselves. The Monday before Purim it is very important to fast; it is a fast of simcha, a fast to become a receiving vessel for the Torah.

Our greatest gift is our deficit. The purpose of the world is to do tchuva. Tchuva is returning a lost spark to G*d. It made Esther’s face shine. The other candidates for the coveted position of wife to the drunken wife-killer had to use oils and makeup, but Esther was radiant without using any cosmetics.

Esther learned from Miriam to unify the people in exile. Your exile can be your redemption (see last week’s notes for how the words in Hebrew are similar).

Mistareem and Esther are the same word, hidden. G*d feels our pain more than we feel it—He/She has to hide it from the world, so G*d cries in the mistareem, the hidden place.

G*d erased Himself/Herself from His/Her book. Shavuos is the giving of the Torah; Purim ins the receiving of the Torah.

Esther hid the paradox in her heart. Her son, Sirius, rebuilt the Temple. (These two thoughts are connected.)

In the week of shiva, we sit on the earth. Grieving is an earth process. We take off our shoes to get closer to the earth.

During shiva, two processes can occur: numbness/barrenness, and denial.

The definition of exile is G*d is crying over neglect of Torah study.

Aish Kodesh, page 291.

The number one, aleph, uniting the paradox. The Aish Kodesh says we can either deny the pain or feel it and become depressed. He teaches everyone in the Warsaw Ghetto to connect pain and simcha. The Torah is redemption.

Non-exile is hearing the voice of the Torah in Hamas (terrorist group), the Nazis. Aleph means “I learn.”

Exile is going without water/Torah for three days. Torah connects us with heaven and earth; it gives us a home.

The Jews were in Baghdad from 586 BCE (Before the Common Era) to 1950, when 51 were left. Shabbos is the simcha for the mourner. The mourners had rose water—they stood by the door to the shul with the rose water, and the congregation smelled it and gave them a brucha (blessing).

Inviting the community in during mourning makes us vulnerable.

G*d cries for the person who can’t study Torah, but does not discount his adversity.

Rashi says you have to make the laws sweet and delicious to avoid anger. That’s why they book of Jewish law is called the Shulchan Aruch, the Set Table.

In the story in Aish Kodesh, page 286, R. Jose was num ah cara – you don’t hear the voice of pain – he heard the gentle cooing of a dove, but when G*d mourns, it’s like a lion roaring. There’s a spectrum of what we can hear.

Unify pain and simcha to do tchuva.

G*d cries in the mistareem, Esther’s name. She doesn’t just cry, she cries out to all of the people. You get into the mistareem by- ?

Standing still and lowering your defenses.

Freedom is taking responsibility.

If I go in I die

Spiritual death

Physical death.

The bar mitzvah boy should be lifting the Torah. Making yourself a receiving space is a lot more than taking- Lifting the Torah is the sign that we’re receiving. Lifting means I’m ready to receive.

It may be easier to clean for Pesach or fast on Yom Kippur than to make ourselves vulnerable by putting on a stupid costume at Purim.

Running out of water was a bigger miracle than parting the Red Sea. ??

What is theft? If you know a Torah and you don’t share it.

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